Was This A Bad Idea?
This week I started a 30 Days of 10 challenge where I am attempting to establish 10 new habits over the course of 30 days. Time to reflect.
Did I set myself up for failure? Maybe picking 10 things for #30daysof10 was unrealistic. The phrase ‘overly optimistic’ comes to mind. I struggle to get the usual done every single day, why am I adding 10 more?
Am I Failing?
I feel like a failure today. Motivation is definitely playing hide and seek with me. My mood is quite an obstacle as well.
However, if I had thought #30daysof10 was going to be easy, I would have just added these 10 things to my daily routine and been done with it. I knew I needed accountability to get it done, that’s why I’m sharing and encouraging (or trying to) others.
Fleeting Feelings
The feelings of failure are temporary, as usual. In reality, as soon as I ask myself the question and examine the possible answers, I know that I’m not failing. For me, failing would be not trying, or completely giving up.
The attempt makes it a win, regardless of how many of the #30dayof10 I achieve each day. ( How It’s Going )
Grace
Someone mentioned grace this week. When I can’t get to them all, I must give myself some grace. There are reasons, even if the reasons are sometimes mental stumbling blocks.
Also, I have to look at the balance of things. If I finally get into a project that I’ve been struggling to get to, and get drawn in (like writing more than a paragraph, for example) that must still be considered a win, even if I had to let something else go.
Balance
As with all things, finding a balance is the never-ending struggle but also the key to making it all work. New habits can be formed and fit in, I just have to figure out how to adjust the balance.
And guess what? I will.
I’ve been doing the challenge too. I’ve been nervous to share about it, but I’m here in it too and I think it’s very positive.
I’m glad you’re in it! Congrats!
Yes! Yes! Yes! And to those who haven’t tried the challenge yet, please consider it. You are in good company. ?
Thanks Val for initiating leading us through this so vulnerably.
Thanks Lory for sharing. I’m plodding along over here and I take so much comfort and inspiration from “all ‘y’all”!
I agree about “all y’all”! It definitely helps me to have others doing this with me.
Stay strong Val. Your found great ❣️
Thank you!
Thats great, Val, that you’re giving yourself grace. I admire you because you chose to do this, knowing it wasn’t going to be easy and have been an encouragement in this challenge.
I had intended to hold myself accountable daily. I felt like I had let myself down at first as well. But I had to step back and look at the fact that I am still managing about 5 each day. My daughter confided in me about her 12 year struggles in her marriage, things I’d suspected but was always told I was misreading things. For the past week, we’ve had discussions about when is enough enough and she’s now trying to figure out basically how to get away from a bad situation. Even though it’s been a difficult week emotionally, I’ve hung on to some of these items on my list. So I feel like I actually have accomplished something with this. I think a huge lesson for me in this is that it’s not about ticking off every box as much as it is about making progress and any progress is great progress! ? I think you’re doing amazing Val! And thank you for the inspiration! ?
I’m sorry to hear about the family stuff. That’s hard. And yes, progress is progress and should be the focus every day rather than the habit many of us have of focusing on our shortcomings. ?