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Home/Just Jess/Autism/Deciding To Add a Puppy To The Family

Deciding To Add a Puppy To The Family

Our Next Adventure

Just what I (don’t) need – another adventure. Almost every day seems like an adventure already. I have been mentally preparing for a year. Throughout the year, Jessica has been warned that as we go through this new adventure I will lose my cool, and that I will possibly pitch a fit (or two, or three.) What is this ridiculous adventure? We are planning to get a puppy.

Background Info

Jess has been obsessed with dogs forever. Interestingly, the majority of her life she was terrified of dogs. She was curious, wanted to know about them and talk about them, but not touch them. It was related to her tactile defensiveness. Jessica did not like to touch any kind of fur.

Then, Jess aged out of high school. She had no social schedule, no friends to go do things with, and I was adjusting to working full-time for the first time in over a decade. Jessica was really sad and lonely, and asked for a dog of her own.

IMG_5928Overcoming Fears

Finally, we went to shelters to look at dogs. I was afraid she would just want the first dog we visited. Jess proved me wrong when she wanted to look somewhere else after we visited two specific dogs. As we walked in the second shelter, she told the woman at the counter that she wanted a big black dog that didn’t bark.

The woman responded, “I have just the one for you.”

Next, the woman took us to a room to visit the big black dog that didn’t bark. Jessica eventually sat down in the floor. The beautiful black dog sat there calm as could be. No jumping, no licking, just sitting there evaluating us in return.

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Fall 2011

There was a problem though. Jessica was afraid to touch her.

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2010 – The Day We Brought Abby Home

I explained to Jess that dogs need love and affection. I told her we could not get a dog if she wasn’t going to be able to touch it and love on it. At that point, I figured we would be finished and would go home without a dog.

Jess learning to show affection to Abby
Jess Was Trying to Get Used to Touching Abby. She Spent The Entire Day Next To Her.

Then, Jessica did the most unexpected thing. After 22 years of fear, she leaned over and hugged a dog. It may be the bravest thing I have ever seen her do.

Trixie

Trixie had been at the shelter for over a year. She soon got a new home and a new name. Abby. We came home and worked on bonding. Jess was amazing. So was Abby. They became great pals.

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Spring 2010 – Our First Evening With Abby
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Jess Eventually Rested on Abby Until She Was So Sleepy She Couldn’t Stay Awake.
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2011 – Abby Has Been On Many Road Trips With Us.

Abby has enriched Jessica’s life in many ways. The most important one being companionship that helps to reduce loneliness.

January 2014

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January 2014

It was 2010 when Abby came to live with us and we were told that she was 2-years-old. But not so, says the vet. She is probably at least a couple of years older than we originally thought.

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August 2016

Abby is now probably at least 10-years-old. Of course, it is possible that she has some good years left.

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August 2016

On the other hand, she may not. She’s looking kinda elderly.

A transition puppy may help when the time comes
August 2016

Last year, I decided we need a ‘transition’ pooch. I feel it will be easier for Jess to manage the loss (when the time comes) if she has another dog she has bonded with already. I decided on a puppy because I don’t want to inherit bad habits. Puppy training is important because of Jessica’s autism, vision impairment, and developmental disability.

The Plan

Jess has reminded me almost on a daily basis that she is going to get a new pooch for Christmas. She has been decided for a while on gender, color, size, how loud it will bark, etc. Female, black, HUGE, and a loud bark. Those are her requests.

We will not be getting a huge dog, though. I don’t even want a big dog. Medium sounds perfect. Over this past year I have convinced her that a male could be okay if it seems like just the right dog. I have also successfully suggested that it could be colors other than black.

Jessica’s Christmas morning surprise is being carefully orchestrated – by Jessica. She has even told me where she is supposed to find the puppy that morning. Jess has been working on saving money all year long to help pay for food, toys, and a vet visit.  She has also been collecting dog toys all year.

Help Needed

Here’s the scoop! I need help finding just the right pup. Does anyone know anyone who has young puppies that need a home? I am quickly running out of time and am willing to make a road trip to look at puppies.  Info greatly appreciated!!

Thanks!

 

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November 20, 2016 By Val 4 Comments

Filed Under: Autism, Blog Post, Perpetual Parenting Tagged With: Anxiety, Autism, Autism Awareness, Autism Spectrum Disorder, autismmom, autismparent, Blind, communication disorder, Cortical Blindness, Cortical Vision Impairment, Developmental Disability, dog, dogs, puppies, puppy, Transition Planning

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  1. Thomas Atkinson

    November 21, 2016 at 9:55 am

    Such an inspiration! Good luck on the pup! No bark to a “loud bark” is a huge stride!! 🙂

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    • Val

      November 21, 2016 at 10:15 am

      Thanks Thomas. I have talked to Jess about the importance of teaching the dog how to speak, so that we can also teach it NOT to speak 🙂

      Reply
  2. Inez Cannon

    November 21, 2016 at 9:29 am

    I hope you find exactly the right pooch, Jessica. For the record, my son Ron’s dog is a black lab mix who doesn’t bark much. We love our Molly.

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    • Val

      November 21, 2016 at 10:14 am

      Thanks Inez, I’ll tell her about Ron’s dog! I hope we find the right one too. Jess did such a good job picking out our Abby.

      Reply

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