An age-old question maybe, but a question that has to be addressed sometimes. My answer to the question is no, I do not. I love them all differently.
June 2015 June 2015 June 2015
They are loved as differently as are their unique personalities, as differently as their own needs and wants, as differently as their individual talents and gifts, as differently as their personal dreams and desires.
But I love none more than another, none less.
August 2009 – Atlanta June 2015 Spring 2015
Although I write one blog, I could easily write three. Each of my children have been on multiple journeys and have had many successes, joys, challenges, and drama. They will each face much more in their lives. I am proud of each of their accomplishments as well as all of the things they have overcome.
May 2011 Fall 2010 September 2011
Stories of Jess fill my blog because my blog is about Jess and the impact her joy, challenges, and needs have on our family. I occasionally include Hannah in my blog but only with her review and permission. I do not include my son in my blog because from the beginning, he has asked me not to. That is his choice and I totally respect that. So the lack of writing about him in my blog is not a reflection of my love and affection for him.
December 2010 April 2011 August 2014 – Savannah
Nothing particular prompted me to write about this topic. Merely being a mother makes me want to make sure my children know how much I love them as the individuals that they always have been and always will be. I want to do it right, but I know that I have failed many times.
Raising siblings of children with autism is challenging.
Although I don’t recall grasping anything earth shattering, it reminds me that over 20 years ago I was already searching for help. Madison would have been 3 and Hannah 1.
Here are a few stresses I saw in my own children as they were growing up:
Jealousy regarding amount of time parents spend with their brother/sister
Frustration over not being able to engage or get a response from their brother/sister
The Autism Society reports while growing up as the sibling of someone with autism can certainly be trying, most siblings cope very well. And that while having a sibling with autism is a challenge, it is not an insurmountable obstacle. Most children handle the challenge effectively, and many of them respond with love, grace and humor far beyond their years.
September 2014 September 2014 September 2011
I am so proud of my children. Especially Madison and Hannah. They have grown into intelligent, wonderful, loving, kind, and compassionate adults. Madison has found himself, accomplished great things, and is still on an incredible journey of discovery and learning. Hannah has proven she is a survivor, a wonderful person and incredible caregiver, and is on a journey of discovering where she wants to go from here.
June 2015 April 2015 February 2015
TO MY CHILDREN:
Robert Munsch (Love you Forever)
June 2015 June 27, 2015 May 2015
July 1987 June 1991 February 1993
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Kaye
You have written on an interesting and important topic. Most parents ponder those very questions and strive to show each child equal but special love. But, the challenges for siblings of special-needs children, as your family demonstrates, make the family system vastly more complex. You succeed in making each of your “babies” feel special, and they are! Congratulations.
You have written on an interesting and important topic. Most parents ponder those very questions and strive to show each child equal but special love. But, the challenges for siblings of special-needs children, as your family demonstrates, make the family system vastly more complex. You succeed in making each of your “babies” feel special, and they are! Congratulations.
Thanks Mama! It is a huge challenge and seems like a constant balancing act, even as they are adults. I will always keep trying to get it right.
I love you!